It’s been a while since I’ve actually written a blog post (I post daily on Instagram so follow me HERE) but I am so excited about this one!
I’ve decided to launch a series where I break rules for plus size fashion. In my opinion, anyone can wear anything they want as long as they feel comfortable and confident rocking whatever look they have. So today’s topic is bodycon dresses!
I feel like it took me a really long time to become confident in my curves. Especially throughout high school, I was constantly comparing myself to others. Especially with having sisters and best friends who are so thin and gorgeous. Here’s a photo of my three sisters: Erin, Britney and Emily as well as my best friend Mandi. As you can see they are all stunning!
I always compared myself to different women surrounding me and honestly always compared myself negatively. And I struggled. Hell, I still struggle. My body is different but I’ve learned that’s okay. Having boobs and hips and thighs are okay. Being plus size is okay. As long as I’m healthy and happy, why would I not embrace this amazing body I’ve been given?
I vividly remember the first time I felt confident enough to buy a bodycon dress. It was a month into dating Matt (my now husband). And sadly, it took him being attracted to me for me to gain that confidence. I love that Matt loves my curves and is constantly telling me that I’m beautiful, but I really wish I had this confidence on my own before I met him. I probably would have done more. I probably would have spent less time agonizing over whether or not to wear whatever thing I felt uncomfortable in. And honestly, I probably would have started this blog sooner.
I feel like a real turning point for me was when I realized that I was never going to be a size 2. I’m just not. My body was built to be curvy. Once I accepted that, I finally felt satisfied. I don’t worry about working out and dieting to get to 120 pounds. I work out to make my body strong and toned in the shape it is. I eat healthy so my body will last me. I’m more comfortable today at a size 18 than I ever was at a size 10. It really is all about perspective.
Being comfortable in my own skin is still a work in progress. It will probably always be a work in progress. If I go days without a compliment, I struggle. If I’m feeling more bloated than usual, I struggle. But I just try to remind myself that my body is the only one I have and I would rather spend my life embracing it and treating it kindly than agonizing over it all the time.